You are the Sunshine of My Life

Author: Susan  |  Category: beach, location

There are 9 days until the wedding and we can now officially start checking the weather.  Be warned that long range forecasts are rarely accurate … but it’s fun to watch.  If you have a different weather Web site you prefer, the zip code in Ocean City is 21842.

According the Weather channel, Saturday, May 2 will have a high of 64 degrees and a low of 53 degrees with a 20 percent chance of rain.

And if it turns out that there is an 80 percent chance of rain and it’s only 46 degrees, it won’t matter.  At the end of the day, I’ll still be married to Don.  Although our guests should bring coats in that scenario as there is no heat at the reception venue!

Check Baby, Check Baby, One, Two, Three, Four

Author: Susan  |  Category: beach, ceremony, location

Here’s a list of all the stuff we’ve checked off the list in the last two days:

Plugging away; stay tuned.

You Oughta be in Pictures

Author: Susan  |  Category: beach, ceremony, location

Don and I seem to only know talented and smart and generous people.  In addition to the friends who have been helping me with various DIY projects related to throwing our almost vendor-less wedding, we also know a bunch of gifted professional, near professional and amateur photographers.

I have known one of these photographers, Chris Anderson, for more than half of my life. He’s a full time photojournalist for a local paper, brilliant and one of my closest friends.  AND he’s agreed to photograph our wedding.  Sort-of.

See, Chris also is an invited guest at our wedding and we wanted (and he wanted) to make sure he still gets to be a guest.  But the more we thought about it, the more we really wanted someone we know to photograph it.  I have this idea, perhaps misguided, that if you have a personal relationship with the photographer the images will be more authentic somehow.

So we came up with a plan that works on just about every level.  Don and I decided to have most of our wedding pictures taken BEFORE the wedding.  It’s a great idea for us because we’re not particularly superstitious and don’t have any ideas that seeing each before the wedding is naughty.  Plus getting the pictures taken early means that we get to attend our own cocktail hour and hang out with our friends and family.

Also - and this is my favorite part - since we’re getting the pictures made Carouselearly, we can have them taken just about anywhere in Ocean City.  So we decided that we want to have them taken about 40 blocks from the wedding site - at the inlet in Ocean City where we can have some standard beach pictures, pictures with the pier in the background and pictures on the rocks of the inlet PLUS pictures on the boardwalk.  The idea of having pictures of Don in his tux and me in my wedding dress on the carousel at Trimper’s or the bumper cars, playing skee ball or eating cotton candy makes me positively swoon with happiness.

There are a couple of shots we need during the actual ceremony and a few to be taken immediately following the ceremony (after we have our rings on), but the hardest work will be done and Chris can get on with the business of being a guest.

Yay for talented friends!

Oh, and as for those other photographers we know … well, they might end up being asked to take a picture or two also.

Indoor Carousel by swamibu

Well, Well, Well

Author: Susan  |  Category: food, location, reception, weirdness

If you’ve been reading the blog from the start, you know some of the early problems we had with the reception venue caterer.  If you started reading more recently, I wrote a lot about it during the month of August.  The catering manager was a challenge, to say the least.

Today, my mom sent me an article from the local weekly paper offered below without comment.

Dooley named new GM at Centerplate

(Jan. 9, 2009) John Dooley has been named the new general manager of Centerplate at the Roland E. Powell Convention Center in Ocean City. Centerplate provides catering services for all events held at the 40th Street venue.

Dooley most recently served as the food and beverage director of Centerplate at Yankee Stadium in New York where he had worked since 2006. He has also served as a regional executive chef for Centerplate at Liberty Science Center in Jersey City, N.J., and then the Jacob Javits Convention Center in New York City.

Earlier in his career, Dooley was the executive chef for Service America at Indiana Convention Center and RCA Dome in Indianapolis, executive chef and food and beverage director at the Doubletree Park Terrace Hotel in Washington, executive chef at Aramark at Sprint in Reston, Va., and senior food service director at Aramark at SAIC in McLean, Va.

During his career, Dooley has managed food and beverage services for numerous high profile events including the Grammy Awards, movie premier cast parties, the Economic Club Dinner for President George H. Bush and the NBA All-Star game in Denver.

“John brings a wealth of experience and knowledge to our catering operations,” said Mike Noah, convention center executive director. “We believe our clients will be well served by his expertise in food and beverage services.”

- Ocean City Today

I wonder what happened to Silent Bob?

All Decked Out

Author: Susan  |  Category: location, reception

After the tasting on Saturday, we had a chance to see the Sunset Room decorated for a wedding. Until now, we’d only seen it stripped down after an event. The wedding was a little larger than ours, but much smaller than the event set-ups we’d seen previously. It was set for about 116 people, I think. Plus, we got to see the linens, silverware, glasses, etc. so it was a really good representation of what it will look like for us on May 2.

The couple using the venue last weekend decided to hold their ceremony on the covered portion of the deck - our rain back-up location - so it was very good to see what that looks like.

Here’s a preview:

To see more pictures of the Sunset Room decorated for a wedding, visit Don’s Sunset Room Flickr stream.

Where to Begin?

Author: Susan  |  Category: breakfast, location, reception, welcome dinner

This past weekend brought lots of wedding planning, and with it lots of upcoming blog posts. I am so excited about everything right now that it’s hard to imagine we didn’t have a place to get married a month ago.

Where to start - food, hotel, transportation, new events for a wedding weekend that have been planned, food, save the date cards?
I think I’ll start with the schedule of events. As I have mentioned before, I love reading other people’s wedding blogs. One of the new trends in indie weddings is the weekend wedding and most of the blogs I read are written by indie brides.
I should point out that the weekend wedding is not an indie concept. Traditional weddings often have events that stretch on for days. But indie brides have not traditionally gone that route because, frankly, it can all be very expensive. Destination weddings are perfect venues for weekend weddings because everyone is away from home and it’s nice to have a built in group to socialize with when you want that, and time to be alone with your family when you want that.
So is a weekend-long, indie wedding on a budget is possible? I hope so, as long as we’re resourceful. If the $2K bride and groom can do it on their budget, I think we can, too.
Enter, our weekend wedding.

On Friday evening everyone is invited to the home of our good friends Jim and Annemarie Dickerson (on the same property as Annemarie’s mother who happens to be my mother’s best friend) for a welcome picnic hosted by Don’s parents. The property (click the picture above to see an enlargement) is located about 3 miles or so from the hotel where we have reserved a room block (also owned by the Dickersons). The house is located on a river with really beautiful sunset views and it was built for hosting parties (complete with a row boat ice cooler for beer, an outdoor fireplace, a huge grill and and a tiki bar). And Jim and Annemarie, along with their three kids, are some of my favorite people. Annemarie was my very first friend; she and her mom were waiting at the house the day my parents brought me home to live with them. An Eastern Shore picnic is not just your standard hamburgers on the grill, by the way. Expect steamed crab and shrimp and corn on the cob - as long as we can easily get them at that time of year (it’s a little early).

Saturday’s main activity, of course, is the wedding and the party that follows.
Sunday morning - not too early - everyone is invited to the hotel’s Caribbean Key indoor pool for a bagel brunch to say goodbye. Toss back the the hair of the dog that bit you with a spicy bloody Mary, grab a bagel and smear, or just relax in the indoor hot tub. Everyone is invited, even those who choose not to stay at the hotel.
It should be a really fun weekend. I can hardly wait for the next six and a half months to pass.

I Voted Today and Other Stories of Being Ahead of Schedule

Author: Susan  |  Category: food, invitations, location

In Arlington County you can vote early for just about any reason you can come up with - including if you’re going to be a poll worker on election day (Don) or you work outside of the county (both of us). Don voted on September 27 and I voted today.

You’re probably wondering what this has to do with planning a Nice Wedding? It’s all about getting things done early. I may have mentioned that our wedding date is just 2 weeks before the ALL CANDY EXPO - NCA’s biggest media event of the year and at a time when I am very busy at work. You also know that we’re having a very DIY wedding. So getting things done early is going to be my mantra from here on out.
This weekend for example we’re tasting the entrees and appetizers. We MIGHT meet with a wedding celebrant (note to self - send the celebrant an e-mail to see if he’s available this weekend). The save the dates are going out Nov. 3 or so and immediately after that I am going to assemble the invitations so that they will be ready to mail on March 9. I hope to have the invitations ready before Christmas (not necessarily addressed - in case anyone moves - but assembled and in the envelopes). We’ve already bought the components for the centerpieces and they will be delivered to Ocean City this weekend. We’ve selected most of the important music (processional, recessional [referred to in our home as the "boo-yah"], first dance, father daughter dance, cake cutting, etc.). I have my dress and it doesn’t even really need to be altered (depending on my shoe selection).
Now, I know there will be a hundred and one little details to deal with in April, and even on May 1 and 2 (after all, we have to essentially decorate the reception venue ourselves), but I really need to make sure we can get all the big stuff done by Christmas and most of the rest done by March (February is also a busy month for me since NCA’s annual meeting is the first week of March).
What do you think? Is it do-able? What were things that took you longer than you expected that I should watch out for? What did you forget about until the last minute?

We Are Decided

Author: Susan  |  Category: location, reception

To re-cap, we found a wedding reception venue in Ocean City that was almost exactly what we wanted … but the caterer was impossible. After probably 60 more inquiries we found another possibility and went for a visit to the new secret venue. It was beautiful, easy to work with and affordable … but it was really remote. This weekend we looked at two other venues - one we loved but couldn’t afford, one we could afford but didn’t love.

So, after a lot of thought, we made up our mind.

The menu, once we finally heard from the caterer was very well planned and all evidence from other brides and meeting planners indicates that once you get beyond the initial ickiness of working with Silent Bob, the property is great, the on-site operations director is great, the chef is great, etc. So. It’s decided!

We still have a few more key interactions with Silent Bob before it’s a done deal, but I just sent him e-mail confirmation that we’re ready to move forward. Yay!

So, weigh in … is this what you were hoping for or did you think we’d pick the barn wedding? Are you ready to get sand in your shoes?

The Sad Story of Silent Bob, the caterer

Author: Susan  |  Category: food, location, reception

This is a long, sort-of sad post about why we have not been able to sign a contract on our reception venue. You can read it if you want, but I warned you.

As you may know, Don and I found a reception venue that we really like in Ocean City, Md. The venue overlooks at the Sinepuxent Bay (sometimes called Isle of White Bay) on one side and a tidal marsh on the other. It’s a long room with windows on both sides and a perfect view of the Sunset. There’s a two level deck over the water and it’s a short walk from the ocean where we’d like to hold the wedding ceremony.

Twenty years ago (or more), the Sunset Room was a night club. However, many years ago the building was purchased by the Town of Ocean City and is run by the Convention Center (which happens to be right next door).

The Convention Center is the exclusive caterer for the venue and they contract with a national company called Centerplate. Centerplate is a huge company with contracts for lots of large facilities including ball parks (hence the name).

Initially this scared me. Trade associations, like the one I work for, are in the convention business so I’ve sampled quite a bit of convention food that’s left a little something to be desired. BUT, the chef at the Ocean City Convention Center was recently named Maryland 2008 Chef of the Year so I’m not too worried.

However, even though we’ve been working on securing this venue for almost eight weeks, we really haven’t made much progress.

First there was the dilemma about who really is in charge of the venue. I put a reservation on the space in July with the Convention Center staff only to be told a few weeks later that the calendar maintained by that staff isn’t the official calendar and that my date might already be booked.

After we cleared that hurdle, there was the debate about how much the room costs. I was told by the Convention Center staff that there was a $1500 room charge but if you spend $5000 on food and beverage, the room fee is waived. Then Centerplate told me that there was a $1500 room charge (that, I have been told on more than one occasion, essentially covers the linens and tables) and $5000 minimum food and beverage order. The $1500 fee is never waived. [Side note - both times I've seen the room it was set up to seat about 160 people. That's twice as many people as we expect at our wedding - twice as many tables, twice as many chairs, twice as much linen. If the room fee really is in place to cover the table and linen use then we're getting screwed big time!]

Putting everything else aside, we really like location. So we decided to pursue it. That’s when the phone calls began.

They continued.

And continued.

And continued.

Until finally, I asked my mom to go there in person and get some kind of response. Thankfully on the day she was to visit in person she called to find out where in the building she would find the catering sales office and amazingly got the caterer, who I have nicknamed Silent Bob, on the phone. He gave her some song and dance about how busy he is and then scheduled a meeting with us on August 1. [Another side note - We're busy too. The difference is that we have full times jobs that are not planning our wedding whereas his full time job is to plan events for clients of the Convention Center and Sunset Room.]

So, we met with him on August 1, a Friday. The meeting was very good as meetings go. We were sad to learn the $1500 fee is not going to be waived, but decide it might be worth it anyway. We discussed some specific food ideas we had and asked to have a menu drawn up with pricing. He told us that it would take about a week so we expected to hear from him on August 8.

On Thursday, August 7 I sent him a “thanks for meeting with us; looking forward to seeing your menu creations tomorrow” e-mail just in case we’d slipped his mind. No response.

The 8th came and went. There was nothing over the weekend. Monday slipped into Tuesday.

Finally, I wrote again. He told us he should be able to get us something the following day, or by the week’s end. Wednesday became Thursday, Thursday became Friday and we headed into the weekend with no communication.

Tuesday night, August 19 (18 days after our meeting, and 7 weeks after I placed my first call to the Convention Center to enquire about the space), we sent a final e-mail to Silent Bob. We said we needed to make a decision by the end of the week or move on to our second choice location. [Side note - We don't have a second choice location, really. There are some places that would be fine ... but nothing that felt as right from the first time I saw it.]

If I don’t have something from him tomorrow afternoon, I’ll make one final attempt to contact him via phone - our hail Mary pass.

Don’t worry though, when we run off and elope we’ll take lots of camera phone pictures and it will be almost as special.

Almost.

Cross your fingers that it all works out. We need all the positive thoughts you can muster.

Whatever Happened to Key West Anyway?

Author: Susan  |  Category: beach, location, reception

If you heard any of our early ideas for wedding venues and locations, you might be wondering what ever happened to Key West. We’d thought about getting married there for as long as we’d thought about getting married (well, either there or Puerto Rico … but Key West was the first choice).

In the beginning, we thought we’d have a really small wedding. That’s because we didn’t really spend a lot of time thinking about what the term small wedding meant. So, of course we could easily pull off a destination wedding in a place like Key West. But when we realized that destination weddings are either really really small - like 12 people - or really really expensive - like fancy hotels - we had to re-consider. Well, that’s true at least for Key West.
First we made a list of who we wanted there. There’s a lot of you suckers, it turns out. Our first list had 76 people on it and there were others it made us sad not to write down. The places we liked best in Key West could hold 40 people max! The properties big enough for our group were super expensive. One small hotel (8 or 10 rooms maybe - but with a big outdoor event space) told us that first we would rent out the whole property for $20,000 and THEN we’d pick our catering and bar packages, decor, music, linens and so on. Uh, no.
Plus, being so far away from home made my whole idea of DIY wedding a little harder.
The cost for guests would be crazy, too. If we had the wedding in March or April, we were looking at room rates of $300 or more at some of those hotels big enough to accommodate us.
When we started looking closer to home we realized that my hometown also is a beach and also allows our guests to have a little getaway. It’s not Key West - it’s not even CLOSE to Key West (physically or conceptually), but there is ocean and bay and sand and pretty sunsets and a lot of things important to us. And we could invite more of you.
As of 5 p.m. Thursday, I STILL haven’t heard from the caterer so we’re not ruling out eloping yet … but he claims we’ll have some menu samples and costs by the end of the week so you might get to see our vows after all.